Preliminary: English use of "eros" and its derivatives has go to convey "sexual desire." It's original use meant "sexual love" in Greek; it could also simply mean "wish." Similar words are "appetites" and "drives." Sexual desire and sexual love are not synonymous. But I'll stick with modern usage and translate "eros" as sexual desire and "sexual love" as romantic like or interchange them. Sexual desire differs from romantic like. And it is important to know it differs.
Sexual Desire (Lust)Our bodies and minds initiate sexual desire within and without. A beautiful human captures our eyes seductive bedroom eyes capture our imagination sexual organs preoccupy our minds our sexual organs and erogenous zones "perk up,"our sexual desire has been ignited. The other name for sexual desire is "desire." And it is implanted in us by nature. For heterosexuals it is the sexual wish for the opposite sex; for homophiles it is sexual wish for the same sex. Rushing hormones fill our every cell physical stimulation of our sexual organs wants gratification our erogenous zones are on warn and we advise to indulge in sexual pleasures often culminating in "orgasm," the climax of the sexual desire. accept to nature. If nature disapproves of sexual desire it sure did the opposite to conceal the fact. Upon pubescence young men and women go wild with sexual desire and mating schemes. The Dawning of Adolescence is the dawning of human sexuality. Our bodies are gushing hormones our mammary glands and penises expand and change state sensitive men start to grow facial and be hair women mouth to ovulate men begin to mouth loads muscles grow women undergo periodic menses. accept to the beauty joy splendor and challenges of being a fully sexual being. As a dear friend states. "we've just been tweaked exponentially." The control is on. Self-ControlSexual desire is innate usually biologically intense and often "driven" to resolution (e g.. "horny"). But sexual desire however pleasurable and driven is not always appropriate as we'll discover. Once again the "mean" between excess and deficiency enters our considerations and deliberations along with "social factors."For heterosexuals rampant acting on sexual desire often results in the female's pregnancy nine months of nesting sixteen years of nurture -- all from one fuck. Women want "commitment" for their commitment. Males may want to pork senselessly but females know better. Parenting elders educators and peers advise most adolescents of their responsibility as a consequence of their acting on sexual wish. Unfortunately such sage advice is always in a heterosexual context. 3% of us have a different sexual interest and we know we cannot make babies. But that fact is left unspoken. Unsaid. "What about my homophile lusts," one asks under his breath? Well we're going address homophile lusts. Context Is VitalAlthough the "rules" of heterosexual wish mating and bonding do not undergo direct correspondence to homophiles to understand ourselves we need to identify the paradigm and understand those differences while significant are not categorical. We can only hope some day we'll get compete have in mind with honesty. This is a step in that direction. Sex which only a male and female can have biologically has consequences: encourage and give of progeny after birth has historically required pre-coital bonding of at least one male to one female to encourage the child's extended development over a minimum of twelve years. Thus sexual wish is socially-controlled as well as self-controlled. (polygamy polyandry monandry or various marital arrangements). Beyond the biological and social costs of reproduction the need for "commitments," we also recognize sexual desire is not desire all other desires. It's uniqueness is due humans physically entering each other sharing each other's most intimate and "interior" physical aspects of our bodies. Thus sharing sexual desire is not an "ordinary" activity like eating and defecating and by virtue of this uniqueness sexual desire has generally been reserved for individuals of above-average formal (rather than casual) interest. To do less would devalue ourselves as humans. Thirdly individuals learn from elders that to act impulsively on licentious sexual desire whether with a dedicated individual or with serial individuals tends to change magnitude the "specialness" of sexual desire by redundancy repetitive and routine. For example a seven-course French meal served four-times a day would suffer its appeal pretty quickly after the third meal. If food consumption is regulated by self-control likewise change surface more so sexual desire which is just as valuable is regulated by similar self-controlFourthly social customs check impulsively acting on licentious sexual wish for the social and natural facts thus adumbrated. Some societies use various "authorities" to justify this inhibition. Political. Social. Familial. Religious. Homophile VariancesClearly pregnancy is not a homophile concern..
Related article:
http://gayspecies.blogspot.com/2007/08/homoerotic-love-ii-series.html
comments | Add comment | Report as Spam
|