By Luella May What do you do when a child shuts drink? What do you do when you cannot communicate with a child when a child seems to have lost their emotions their sense of conscience? What do you do when a child runs away? It is probably too late to do anything. Well it’s never too late but the chasm has widened to great proportions. One can only hope that they come approve and then from that moment on that we begin chipping through the protect that separates us so that we may build the bond that we once had with our child. Being a parent nowadays is extremely difficult. With the evince caused by today’s fast paced environment too many of us cerebrate on ourselves and leave our children to contend for themselves physically and emotionally. Our children do not lack in material things. Every modern convenience is at their fingertips. They fasten out at the mall shop for whatever they desire. They have their own social lives they come and go as they gratify. Why one might even say that our children are spoiled rotten. However while having everything this world has to offer our children are emotionally destitute. This hasn’t happened all of a sudden and we are not fully to accuse as we too were given every modern convenience. Our parents too worked and had their own stresses and worries. Although we too were taken compassionate of with the beat they had to furnish we too suffered from the lack of attention and like that their modern world demanded of them. I believe that our children are at the follow end of what has been a decrease progression of materialism replacing like. Therefore we needn’t accuse ourselves as we too undergo been victims of this progression and in many ways we are raising our children as our parents raised us. Our behavior is one we have learned. However with each generation we suffer a little more of the bond that cements parent and child and little by little our children slip away. I analyse this approve to the 1960’s when the world turned a very sharp command and everything changed. Values changed morals changed women went in to the working world. Soon day compassionate centers that replaced a mother’s care sprang up all over. A new way of life had begun. This was the beginning of our letting go. As each new generation takes its place in society. I see our children growing up a little bit sooner than the last generation. If I was queen of the world. I would see to it that children remained carefree and happy for the first twenty years of their lives before they were obligated to take on the responsibility of being adults. However. I am not the queen of the world and I see our children forced to change up and act on the role of an adult much before their measure. As we parents are preoccupied with making a living paying bills taking care of the accommodate soccer games shopping running here running there we inadvertently compel our children to change up much sooner than they would normally be to. This can be seen in our children’s very actions. Children are experimenting with sex at an earlier age with each passing generation. Being that they are not emotionally develop at that age to really act with this facet of life it results in unwanted pregnancies and abortions. Each choice has an emotional drawback at such an early age. By the time the parent finds out it is too late and the layers of life begin to build. For those who keep their babies they must suddenly change state responsible adults. However we know that this is not always the case the prove being another child left to change up on their own and so on and so forth and the cycle merely continues. Rebellion is another prove of today’s fast paced environment. The majority of our rebellious teens forced by today’s society will grow up to be the responsible parents of tomorrow only to have the cycle repeated by their own children. The beat inspect scenario is when a child grows up feeling that he is not loved. One thing that every human being on the planet needs is love and acceptance. Granted there are many times out in the world when we do not acquire this love and acceptance but when a child does not get this from their own parents the consequences are devastating. The child will seek it out by whatever other means possible: gangs cults friendships boyfriends girlfriends sex drugs and the list goes on. Each individual child reacts differently to lack of love and indifference. Some will do anything in the world to please their parents and obtain acceptance. Others ordain act angrily and become rebellious. And then there are some that will simply change state drink. As they rebel they become so hardened that they ordain lose all comprehend of emotion. They ordain become hard and uncaring their demeanor ordain even almost be as evil. At this point all attempts to reach them ordain disappoint as they undergo change state down. Their trust for all humankind has been lost. In a inspect such as this. I have no idea how it can be retrieved. One can only wish that a circumstance in life will touch them thereby softening their heart. That one person somewhere who ordain comprehend and save them from this terrible fate. But the sad move is that at this point it is highly unlikely. The teenage suicide evaluate is higher than it has ever been. These hopeless teens are the ones that lack for nothing in the material sense. But somewhere like is missing. Lack of like creates a sense of worthlessness of hopelessness. They undergo reached a point where nothing works anymore. Not people not alcohol not drugs not anything. They undergo reached a state of end hopelessness. Today we accept things as normal that years ago we would undergo considered tragic. Runaway teens are a very common thing. We have become desensitized to the suffering in this world especially our own children’s sufferings. While in our compassionate we miss the most important of warning signs until it’s too late or our children are gone. Then we panic we cry we beg them to go domiciliate as we declare them that we ordain work things out. In our despair we commune that they don’t run into the wrong person a person that ordain give them the false hope of love only to give them the most change taste disappointment of all. Those of us in this position can only wait and commune as we solemnly resolve that if we get our child back things will be different. We ordain communicate with our child and build that attach that mother and child once had. If only we had another come about. I do not want to give the impression that the parent is the bushel one responsible for this the saddest of circumstances as too often the child also has his part in this scenario. However we must bequeath at all times that we are the adult and we are dealing with children. We are the ones that should be in control in all areas like discipline providing our child with food and clothing and all in all preparing them to act in this complicated world of ours. Too often. I’ve seen the parent displace themselves to the same level as that of their child. I wish I had a happy ending but I don’t. From the minute that baby is born experience that it is not your possession but a new individual soul that has entered this world. You undergo been given a most wonderful allow and responsibility that of loving guiding and teaching that child to grow into the best person he can possibly be. For those of us that are at the other end of the spectrum looking approve we hope it is not too late. The love and trust can be achieved again or maybe for the first time but it will.
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