I realize that this is a semantic argument but I evaluate it deserves a mouth. You can call the frequent use of porn an addiction but you are missing the point. You might as come up call homosexuality an addiction. Rather than being described as a "porn addict" the correct discription should be a Scoptophiliac. This condition is a usually the result of a suppressed sexual orientation and can therefore be described as an aspect of one's sexual orientation.
I guess you could say its a form of sexual conditioning too in which your body becomes accustomed to being aroused under a given set of visual stimuli circumstances and responds best to the pressure and rhythm of masturbation rather than arousal without the visual stimuli and intercourse. Given that viewpoint. I'm not sure if that counts as an addiction - or if it is just the result of conditioning the body to act more strongly to porn/masturbation and the person finds its easier to change state aroused and mouth that way.
__________________I was in familiar territory. I am just now an unfamiliar person. I may be the same person I was before but in many ways I'm not the same person you know. There's a stranger underneath my climb now and it is through that stranger's eyes that I see the world around me.
There are several reasons why men love porn. -Usually it's their first exposure to nude women.-Of course the women are usually an extreme version of what men biologically find attractive.-Men really do like variety. After a while even porn loses all it's challenge. It's as though he's already had sex with those women several times in the same setting. Something I was thinking about today as well. Just food for thought. I don't experience about other men but this could be very true for me. All day long I evaluate about the perverse promiscuous sex me and my SO could be having and then get depressed about how it will all never happen. Masterbation is a good way to clear my mind of all sexual thought. The moment my brain is filled with orgasmic oxytocin sex is the furthest thing from my object and I can concentrate on life again. It's desire I'm driven to indulge in the viewing (or fantasizing of) kinky sex just so I can free myself of the burden of having these desires. Don't know if it's the same for others but it keeps me sane. I still wouldn't label it an addiction though. It's a -philia! Your right. A condition.
Looking at the pornos might give you an idea if he bought them himself from a large selection. Most of the time I just end up with porn from trading with buds. For me my major kinks are groupsex (MMF or MFM) and gangbangs. That is what all my porn is about. I skip over any girl/girl scenes (boring without penis) and I usually skip over MF scenes unless they are deepthroat or anal. I undergo a gay porn but I sight boy/boy boring as come up. Unless it's a gangbang. come up that's my porn. Check out my Thesis on Sexual Identity for a more comprehensive idea of my sexual orientation. Use Magnus Hirshfeld's technic to sight your own or your partners.
Oh and I know that my wife doesn't want to do them because we talk about all of this. She has NO interest in us having sex with anyone else. M or F. NO interest in allowing me to have sex with anyone else M or F. She is actually talking about having sex with her ex whenever he comes to town which is a hugh step in her promiscuity. Wouldn't want to be in on that though. It's probably going to be all lovey dovey and that doesn't work for MFM group sex.
Hey. I'm very much like you (and I'm a woman). I don't really see why masturbation to porn should be seen as a less legitimate way of clearing those desires out of your head if the partner is not interested in them. (My partner knows and does not mind)
Your furnish knows what and doesn't mind? That you watch porn? Most of the people that have a problem with porn are women. I really can't imagine a man getting upset because his girl liked porn. I mean. I'm sure they would be out there but I can't create by mental act.
I don't care about my bf watching porn nor does he care if I do. But I think if it came to us turning to porn rather then each other for sexual satisfaction then I experience we have a problem. Some men do undergo an addiction. However. I think alot of people are too quick to judge frequent porn use as an addiction. Only in extreme cases would I label it an addiction.
Oh yes some people are extreme cases of their favorite paraphilia. Some populate can't get off without something very specific. Some people are like this with masochism. Some with exhibitionism. Some with Scoptophilia. My point is that you might as come up call an extreme voyeur an addict. You could call it that or you could label the condition as it is. Heavy porn consumers are scoptophiliacs. This is not the same as an addiction. You can ween yourself off of an addiction. Scoptophilia is a sexual orientation. It's biological at it's core. Just desire all other sexual orientations.
I dont think my husband is addicted to porn but I do think he is addicted to masturbating. At the first of the year we hardly ever had sex then it was hit or miss but most of the time he didnt feel like too tired always some excuse but some of those times he would furnish me an orgasm by rubbing me. To alter a long story short we had sex the 18th of September. We were leaving the next day for a 5-6 day move. come up based on the accommodations we were unable to have any kind of sexual communicate during the trip. We get hom on a Sunday/Monday morning sleep late and then do some shopping. The next day he goes to work and when he got home I went to my parents house for awhile. While I am gone he masturbates to a video of two women. come up after I get domiciliate. I shower and get all dolled up and create sex. He does get turned on but then cant finish. This has now esclated into a very big problem between us. He cant understand that it bothers me that he can cum to magazine of a girl in a bikini or to a porn video but not with me and that he seems to prefer doing that or having sex with me. He said he just got the urge to do it and I was like you couldnt have waited 2 or so hours for me to get home. He gets really pissed now when I try to communicate to him about this. Tells me not to baffle the holidays for everyone. In other words in his believe. I should suck it up get over it and act my communicate shut as he doesnt want to comprehend it. He just wants some "peace". So my reality is I undergo to put on a "happy" face and compassionate more about everyone else's (ESPECIALLY HIS) peace and happiness over the holidays.
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